How To Make Time For What Matters To You

If I asked you whether you’re satisfied with the life you have now, 80% of you would say NO. You’re aiming for that extraordinary life you’ve always dreamed of, and yet, you’re still in that zone called ordinary. If I asked you why, you’d say, “Well, I’m just too busy…”

If I asked you what you do on a regular basis to get there, you’d say, “I’m too busy to do anything like that!”

Are we born busy?

Today’s people, it seems, are born busy. Our inbox is flooded with emails, our calendars are packed with meetings and office hours, our phones buzz and ring thirty times an hour, we’re sinking in a sea of commitments and unfulfilled promises… And when you come to think about it, what brings us into such miserable circumstances is not even our busyness, but the fact that at the end of the day we can’t even recall what the things that we’ve spent hours on were, while not investing any time into our own dreams.

I get it. Most people have a 9-to-5 job and don’t enjoy the delights of working as a self-employed or an entrepreneur. But please don’t make me go there, because if I did, I would simply remind you that this is just another excuse to not push forward and strive for excellence regarding your dreams. After 8-9 hours at the office you still get to go home and then do whatever you want, right? So what do you do when you get home?

I just want to relax!

Good. If that’s all you want, go for it. Relax. Relaxing is good and important for your mental, emotional and physical health. But, please, don’t call watching TV relaxing. There are hundreds of studies out there proving that watching TV does nothing good to your mental or physical health, but it actually harms your overall health, because you come from work, where you probably spent 8h sitting at your desk, you commute for 30min-60min by sitting in the train / tram / bus / car, and then you get home and just throw yourself on the sofa for another 2 hours. Can you picture that? Is this picture worth 1000 words? I believe so. It’s a very vivid picture that should wake you up and make you realize that it’s time to turn off that stupid TV / Netflix / whatever and start building your dream!

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Please understand that if you want to leave ordinary and live extraordinarily, you need to stop doing ordinary things and embrace extraordinary. If you don’t want to live extraordinarily, it’s fine. Nobody should judge you and you can be perfectly happy with a simple life. No, I’m not being sarcastic. I mean all of that. Some people are happy where they are with what they’ve got. But there are some people out there who want more out of their lives. I’m talking to you! I know you are out there having all these big dreams and you even talk about them every day, but you go to bed every day frustrated that you are not seeing them fulfilled. I’m not saying this is the answer to every problem, but one of them is certainly related to wasting time on things that don’t help you build your dream. Once again, if you love your 9-to-5, your 2 by 2 cubicle, your white shirt collar strangling you Monday to Friday, please don’t bother with this article. Just go watch your Netflix shows. (I love them too. I’m not against some TV every once and then.)

There’s always time

What I am against, however, is hearing you whine and complain about how little time you’ve got to exercise / learn how to play the piano / read a book / study Chinese / write your own novel / take classes to improve your skills and update your CV / start your own business… all that while telling me how much you enjoyed watching an entire season of The Man in the High Castle or Mr. Robot last night.

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You have more time than you think you have. The problem is you’re wasting it on irrelevant things. There’s always enough time for the things we care about.

Something I’ve re-learnt here in London (especially regarding relationships) is that people will make time for the things & people they care about. Even if it’s just 10 minutes out of one hour, the fact that we make time for certain things & people shows that those are the things & people that matter to us. Your words might be saying otherwise, but how you use your time is the best reflection of what you value the most.

Years ago I heard someone say this: Weak people find excuses, strong people find solutions. Oh, how true! How true! And it all starts with how you invest your time.

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